What the people say about...
By Iana Seales with photos by Jules Gibson
March 22, 2004
The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the psychological arousal that anger causes. This week we asked the man/woman in the street how they let anger out.
Jennifer Dazzell - nurse: `I seldom display my anger. I prefer to leave everything in God's hand. I quarrel with my children from time to time when they get me upset. With my friends, it is different, I hardly say anything but my actions betray my feelings. In time they realise that all is not well.'
Keith Spellen - barber: `My anger is expressive. I normally work myself up and make noise. When I am angry, I am loud and people know. I have never reached that point where my anger led to physical confrontation. There is always that moment when the rage is no more. I remember being angry for an entire week; that was the longest I was ever upset over an issue. But it doesn't pay to hold animosity, believe me, I know.'
Christine Singh - housewife: `I get crazy when I am angry. I just start yelling at people even my children. I would yell at my kids when they do something that ticks me off. When I can't get close to someone who has upset me, I lose it. But my disputes with friends take another course I simply tell them I am angry, no yelling.'
Julian Marks - photographer: `I don't get angry. It may sound strange but it's true. I understand life and as such, I remain calm. I can admit to being a little upset a few times in the past but never have I reached the stage of being angry.'
Onica John - student: `I do get angry but I don't get carried away and blow up over stuff. I usually sit and think things through in my moments of rage. When it comes to my parents, I remain silent and they later figure out that I am upset. My friends and I have disagreements often and I get mad but I usually let it go.'
Andrew Butts - watch repairs/salesman: `I walk away from disputes. When I go down that road, there is no need to get angry. My belief is we should turn away from rage. There is no better way to deal with a heated situation. Anger only makes things worse.'
Nalini Persaud - self-employed: I get annoyed every now and again. I don't hold back my anger in those heated moments. However, I try to tone things down with my children. With my friends I talk things over and never allow it to reach that boiling point.'
John Reid - self-employed: `Anger has stages and after you would have experienced them all you learn to deal with it. I do get angry but I escape by finding humour in the dispute. I strive to be happy so I have found an alternative of telling jokes in heated situations.'
Sonia Persaud - housewife: `I have learned how to keep my anger bottled. I seldom display anger because I usually say things that I later regret. I deal with anger every day and always I find that escape.'
Satyendra Persaud - UG student: `I try to find the funny side of a situation. I believe that when we get angry we lose the ability to control. Ever so often, I would be in disputes because I have learned to look the other way. My personality has outgrown rage and I keep a level head.'